Divorce is bitter; it gets worse when the couple already had children. For the sake of the children, the couple might be required to talk or even meet from time to time after the divorce. Co-parenting sounds like a tough task, but it is possible for ex-spouses to have a healthy co-parenting relationship. One thing for sure is that your ex will remain to be the mother or father to your child. They will forever be part of your life. It is only good to build a healthy co-parenting relationship for the sake of the children.
How to build a healthy co-parenting relationship
As a parent, it is always good to speak good about your ex in front of your children. Yes, you might have stopped loving each other, but the kids should know that there exist respect between you. By saying hurtful things about your partner to the children, you will be undermining the child’s respect.
You need to communicate to maintain a civil relationship with your ex. You do not have to like each other, but maintaining an open communication about issues related to the kids is very important. It will make life easy for everyone. If you cannot be civil or be calm when talking to each other on matters related to the children, the help of a professional will be needed. A therapist or counselor will help you deal with how you feel about your ex. They will enable you to see your ex-spouse as a parent, not someone who took you through hell or whom you do not like.
It is important to create an environment of understanding and healthy communication if more than one kid or a set of children is involved in the divorce. Communication is even more important in blended families. As mentioned earlier, you do not need to love or like each other to be civil. Your children should know that mummy and daddy are not in good terms, but they respect each other.
Create a plan
Agreeing on parenting is not easy even for married couples. Imagine how hard it is for a divorced couple. You might not feel like talking to each other, but you must come up with a plan. If you cannot do it alone, ask your divorce lawyer or mediator to help you with a guideline on how to do it. You might consider going for co-parenting classes as well.